Going through a break up is a very traumatic experience for any woman. Many of us liken it to a death, in a sense, particularly if we’re still in love with our ex boyfriend. We can only think about two things – what went so horribly wrong that he’s no longer a part of our lives and what we can do, right now to get him back.

There are so many conflicting emotions that engulf a woman as she tries to work her way through the days and weeks following the break up. If you’re like me, you turn to anyone you can find for words of wisdom. In typically best friend fashion, my girlfriends all had the same advice. They counseled me to call my ex boyfriend up, plead my case and beg him to take me back. One of my closest friends even suggested I send my ex an expensive present as a way to tempt him to give me another chance.

Regretfully I did those things and I have to say, I have never been so humiliated in all my life. My ex boyfriend ignored all of my attempts to try and win him back. He didn’t answer my calls, he ignored me when I was waiting in his apartment lobby to talk to him and he returned the expensive first edition book I bought for him. I was lost, I was miserable and I was on the edge of believing that I’d lost him for good.

I turned to a co-worker for advice at the time. She was a bit older and I knew that at one point she had struggled with the man she was in love with. She told me that I needed to change my attitude about the break up and my ex completely. She was right.

Although you may feel that your situation is currently hopeless and any chance of a future with your ex is gone, there is a way to shift things back to where they were. You can change how he views you and you can make him want you more than you ever imagined possible. You can learn more about how to erase the pain of the break up and get him back here.

Things to Do Before You Try and Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

I know right now you feel that getting him back is all you’re living for. It’s natural to feel that because your ex boyfriend filled a huge part of your life before you two split. The problem is that if you try and jump right back into a relationship with him, you risk hurting yourself all over again.

There are three things you need to do before you make any attempt to get him to want you again:

Evaluate where your feelings are coming from. I know this can be incredibly challenging given the fact that you’re convinced that your ex boyfriend is the right guy for you. But do yourself a favour. You need to consider whether the need to have your ex boyfriend back is grounded in a genuine desire to build a life with him or whether it’s more about filling that empty space that he’s left behind. An important question to ask yourself is whether you miss him or whether you miss having “a boyfriend.” Be honest with yourself. It’s not worth getting back together with him if it’s just for the sake of being with someone.

Give some careful thought to why you two broke up. The details of the break up can become unimportant in the mind of a woman focused on getting her ex boyfriend back. You must face the reality that something tore you two apart. Whether it was him suddenly deciding he wanted to be single, or one of you becoming involved with someone else, you can’t ignore the fact that things didn’t work. Be honest with yourself about why that was and whether you have the emotional strength to try and work past those issues. I made the mistake of believing that if my ex boyfriend and I got back together that everything would be perfect. It wasn’t. We had to put in some time and emotional energy to work our way through the things we had struggled with the first time around. Consider whether you believe you can do that and whether you want to.

Take an emotional break and go out and have fun. I don’t advocate dating while you’re thinking constantly about an ex. I don’t believe that’s fair to you, the new guy or your ex boyfriend. But there’s absolutely no harm in going out and having some well deserved fun with friends. Depending on your budget, you should even consider a vacation during this time. I want you to view this as a way to revitalize yourself, your spirit and your heart. You need to be in the best shape possible when it comes to getting a man back, so turn the tables around and shift all of your focus onto yourself. It’s okay to spoil yourself right now – you need it!

Can you imagine sending him a text message that will make him melt and want you back? Make it a reality by watching this video now!

Dealing with an Ex Boyfriend Who is Already Dating

If your ex boyfriend has already taken the step of finding someone new to date, I know it can be soul crushing. You feel lost, you feel alone and you feel convinced that he’ll fall so in love with her that you’ll become a distant memory. That’s very unlikely to happen for several reasons.

Most men cycle through their emotions at a much different pace than we do. Your ex boyfriend may not have even fully absorbed the fact that you two have broken up. By that I mean the reality of the loss of the relationship may not have hit him quite yet and one way to avoid that pain is to immerse himself in something new. A new relationship fits that bill completely expect it leaves a man open to a lot of additional pain down the road.

Most relationships that happen right after a break up are indeed rebounds. That means your ex boyfriend is trying to hide his feelings by focusing his heart on another woman. Eventually he’s not going to be able to play that game any longer and everything will collapse. The new woman will be history, your ex boyfriend will feel horrible and he’ll be focused on you and what happened that tore you away from him.

You have to do one important thing if your ex boyfriend is already dating another woman. You have to appear to be fine with it. I realize that’s asking for a lot but you must find the inner strength to do this.

Jealousy is ugly and it’s especially unappealing after a break up. If you get upset with your ex, if you lash out at him and the new woman in his life, you’ll appear petty and emotionally out of control.

On the other hand, if you don’t blink an eye and you carry on your own life as though his dating status if of no consequence to you, you’ll make an imprint on his mind and heart that will always be there.

You can actually use text messages to get him back even if he’s dating. Learn more here.

Text Your Ex Boyfriend and Make Him Crave You Again

One of the most challenging things for a woman following a break up is knowing what to do and what to avoid doing. Many men are fickle so if a woman does something wrong or says something he finds unappealing, any chance of reconnecting can be lost.

It’s horrible to have that hanging over your head when all you want is to erase the break up and be back with the man you adore.

You don’t have to feel that way any longer.

Michael Fiore is a relationship guru. I know that word is thrown around pretty frequently these days, but this man knows what he’s talking about. He understands how men think because he is one! He’s studied men, he understands break ups and he’s a genius when it comes to bringing couples back together again.

Text messages are the most common type of communication. If you’re like me, you’re sending a lot of texts each and every day.

You can now use text messaging as a tool to regain your ex boyfriend’s interest. You can pull him back to you just by sending him a few text messages that automatically push certain psychological triggers within him.

The beauty of Michael’s technique to get your ex boyfriend to want you back is that you’re not exerting any pressure on him. You’re simply just sending him a few text messages and leaving it at that. The content of those message is what does the work for you. The words you send will cling to your boyfriend’s heartstrings and pull him back to you like a magnet.

Michael explains it all in detail in this video here. Take a few moments to watch it. It will give you hope, and help you see that there is light at the end of the break up tunnel.